Last week, Mrs. 1500 asked if you’re judgmental of others. I am super judgmental, more on that in a moment. First, Mrs. 1500 is here to discuss last week’s answers.
OK, so now for my part – last week’s answers to the question, “Do you ever feel judgmental about money?”
A little backstory, The 1500’s went camping and I was hit with a major flashback to our Douglas County days – where everybody spends all the money they have like there’s some unspoken neighborhood contest.
It was obvious that many of our fellow campers knew each other, and were trying to impress each other with their campground decorations. Reader Chris questioned the strength of this story, and I guess anyone who didn’t live in this neighborhood may not fully understand it. It doesn’t seem all that big a deal if people want to spend hundreds of dollars decorating a campsite.
I was judging them based on my Douglas County experiences. And I was SUPER judgmental when I lived there.
I read a lot of good answers. Kate from Cashville Skyline said she was called out by her sister for doing this recently. She continued, “It’s none of my business if other people don’t want to save for their future.”
The control freak in me disagrees, but the teeny smidge that’s rational agrees with this completely.
Jon from Be Net Worthy comments, “That’s one of the downsides of running a personal finance blog, the judgement! I am definitely more aware of what other people are doing and how they are spending their money.”
I think I was always conscious that other people spent more money than I did, even before this blog. Maybe I’m just super judge-y. I can’t change other people, I can only change myself. (Who am I kidding, I can’t even change myself…)
Mrs. Picky Pincher starts her reply with “Ayuuup” which reminds me of the Stephen King book Pet Sematary (and this is the second time that book has come up…) She continues, “I really try to mind my own business, but it’s hard not to be judgmental when you see people making spendy choices. My issue is that it appears they don’t know another way–I have an internal struggle debating whether I should let them know there’s another way or if I should keep my mouth shut.”
How many of us had any sort of personal finance education in our younger lives? 0%? 1%? I just want to share what I know. Of course, I am not so receptive when I’m on the other end, and I’m a terrible teacher, so it comes out all preachy and judge-y…
But there were a few completely different arguments that resonated the most with me. First was from Full Time Finance, who said, “I remind myself that I don’t know their circumstances.” I really can’t add anything to that.
Financial Panther said, “I’m big on the concept that personal finance is personal. What I value isn’t at all what someone else might value, so I try not to pass any value judgments based solely on what people choose to buy.”
Amanda from PassionatelySimpleLife said, “Yes, sometimes I just need to get off my high horse and realize that a lot of people have made money related mistakes, including me.” I’ve made quite a few stupid money choices in my life…
And Done by Forty feels that it should be fair game… “I’m super judgmental with some of my friends’ decisions with money — but often, it’s justified. Like, not in a subjective, this is my opinion way…objectively justified. So whatever: judge away, right?
Everything else in life is free game for judgment: political views, whether an action’s moral or not, the way people dress, whether this movie or song is cool or not. I mean, with so much at stake with our finances, why not subject that area of our lives to the same critiques?”
And Joe from Retire by 40 threw it back at me… “Even when I’m judgmental, I keep it to myself…mostly… *cough* lake house *cough*” Touché, Joe.
Back to Mr. 1500 for this week’s question.
Ask the Readers: Do Others Judge You?
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