Today, I want to talk about your spouse or partner or whatever you call the person you live with. First, allow me to talk about mine for a moment. Mrs. 1500 isn’t perfect:
- I mentioned last week that she has an issue with turning off lights. Her alter ego villain identity is the Wattage Waster:
- Another big issue is that she says the word “apricot,” like this:
In case that didn’t come through, she pronounces the first syllable like the hairy things that live in Africa or at the zoo. Everyone knows that this word is pronounced:
I have more to say about Mrs. 1500, relationships, strippers and even STDs in a moment (readers with delicate sensibilities may want to avert their eyes). First, we need to get to the question from a couple weeks ago:
Are you Passionate about your Work?
A couple weeks ago, I asked you if you were passionate about your work:
Mr. SSC said this:
I have to say that I may be in the minority, but still with a catch. I love my work – at its’ core anyway. I don’t like the bureaucracy within my company, but such is corporate life.
I’ll bet a lot of folks feel like this. We probably enjoy the work that we studied to do in school, but don’t appreciate all of the stuff that goes with it.
I like what Reader redrider has to say. Redrider’s job was nothing more to him than a way to build a better life. Nice work kicking ass in life RR! You are an inspiration:
Nope, not passionate at all, but it paid the bills for the past 8 years and helped my wife and I buy 25 rental properties. Home mortgage is long paid off. Not much cash on hand, but we don’t need any. Always have HELOC loans available. I gave my notice on my 35th birthday and I have 15 days to go! I’m sure you enjoy your job, but wouldn’t raising your kids and spending more time with your family be way more fun? I think you will wish you had done it a long time ago. The hardest part for me was telling my direct reports and coworkers. After that it’s been super exciting. Just my 2 cents!
I love Mr. PIE’s little ditty:
Cue the Righteous Brothers on Monday morning
All together FIRE bloggers:
We lost that workin’ feelin’
Whoa, that workin’ feelin’
We lost that workin’ feelin’
Now it’s gone, gone, woh…
The Physician on FIRE said this:
I’m passionate about doing my job well. I want patients to have the best surgical experience possible, and I’m all about patient safety.
I can’t say I’m passionate about the work. I have very little autonomy and it would be dishonest to say I look forward to my workdays or wish I could work more.
I think he’s in it for the free laughing gas, but I’ll buy the “it’s all about the patients” line for now. Just kidding. Maybe…
Relationships, Strippers and STDs
Last week, I talked about the trolls that came out in force when my story went up on Yahoo!. I know enough not to read the comments, but readers have been forwarding me some of them. This one (thanks MarciaB!) was hilarious:
- Ladies and gentlemen, we have found the next Ernest Hemingway, F. Scott Fitzgerald or Herman Melville. This guy needs an agent so he can get working on the next Great American Novel.
- I’m fortunate that I have a good spouse. Despite what Future Hemingway says, I don’t think our lives are going to devolve into a cocaine fueled, sexual free-for-all. We already work from home and get along just fine, so I have no worries about the future.
Despite the gentle ribbing I give Mrs. 1500, we are compatible and she is a good mother to our children. She hasn’t turned off the lights even once in her life, but she can cook extraordinarily well. She likes to turn our home into a 1800 square foot sauna in the winter, but she has a strong work ethic. She refuses to pronounce certain words correctly, but we are on the same page financially. And this is very important.
Are you and your spouse on the same page?
When I discovered the MMM blog, one of the first things I did was tell the wife how we too could retire early. We couldn’t do it in our 30s like Pete, but I figured out that we could do it in our early 40s. To my amazement, she was completely on board with it from the start (she thought the blog was a horrible idea though*).
However, not all spouses are on the same page financially. I hear from people that want to invest in real estate only to be shot down by their partner. I recently heard from someone who would like to invest in the stock market, but his spouse won’t even let him buy an innocent index fund.
So tell me about your relationship!:
- Are you on the same page with your partner?
- If you aren’t shooting at the same target, have you been able to find a happy medium?
- If you reach financial independence, do you think your life will turn into an orgy of strippers, STDs and unplanned pregnancies with unscrupulous neighbors?
Epilogue: For a simpler take on relationships, my puckin’ friend Justin, breaks them down in terms of farts:
A sure way most men will tell you they have crossed into a comfort zone with their girlfriends, boyfriends, husbands, or wives is when you can let loose a loud stink bomb and be able to laugh rather than apologize. And come on ladies, you know that works both ways.
*The same day I discovered MMM and figured out that I could retire early, I also decided that it would be fun to start a blog. Mrs. 1500 thought it was a horrible idea: “You’ll run out of things to talk about!” Over 500,000 words later, I feel like I’ve barely scratched the surface…
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