I read a book called the 12 Rules for Life that contained some really great advice. One of my favorites was Rule #3:
Make friends with people who want the best for you.
I started thinking about the people in my life. Most of them are decent enough, but that doesn’t mean that I should make time for all of them. In some cases, the relationship is a one-way street. I give a lot and my actions aren’t reciprocated or even appreciated. A little gratitude (is it so hard to say ‘thank you?’) goes a long way, but some are above it.
Part of this is my own fault; I often try too hard to be nice. This behavior is rooted in insecurity. I’ve realized that I act this way because I want people to like me. Now, I see that the result is often the opposite; they walk all over me.
I need to act with confidence instead of insecurity. Shoulders back. Decisiveness. Pleasant, but not overly nice. Stop trying to please so hard.
Some folks have salty layers, but I believe that most are good deep down. However, that doesn’t mean that I should have a relationship with all of them.
I need to take a step back from the people that I don’t have healthy relationships with. I won’t be mean, but I’m not going to go out of my way to give energy to a one-sided deal. Dare I say this:
I need to become a little more selfish.
It makes me a little sad to write these words. I’m not sure even why. It’s probably that too nice stuff. Damnit! 🙂
Onward and upward.
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