Hi there, Mrs. 1500 today, back from a looooooong hiatus.
Mr. 1500 note: It’s been like a million years since the Mrs. has written anything here! I’ve felt a lot of pressure steering this ship on my own, but I know you’ve been busy, wife.
Mrs. 1500 note: Well, one of us has to work…Anyway, back to MY post.
Mr. 1500 note: Your post? Wait, isn’t this MY blog? Why don’t you grab YOUR pillow and go sleep on YOUR couch tonight!!
I got the dreaded Group Text from my brother this weekend.
Are we doing gifts this year?
I didn’t respond right away. I don’t want to do gifts. I don’t want to buy something for someone, and I don’t want anyone buying me something, either.
Mr. 1500 note: I pretty much feel the same way. Except for the new Tesla Roadster. Wife, if you’d like to buy me one, I’ll take it. Same goes for you readers. And if you buy me one, I’ll never ask you for anything else again.
Mrs. 1500 note: You already get to drive my NSX once a month…
Mr. 1500 note: Wait, your NSX? No. YOUR couch is waiting for you.
I don’t want the Obligatory Gift. The thing that someone grabs because they have to buy you something, anything, as long as it is wrapped up to you from them.
Mr. 1500 note: You don’t have to wrap up the Tesla Roadster. That would take a lot of wrapping paper which is wasteful.
Mrs. 1500 note: I’m not buying you this.
Someone bought me a Mickey Mouse blanket one year “because you’re into Disney.” (I’m not.)
My neighbor texted me later that day, asking me how I get people to not buy me things. I responded that I haven’t figured it out yet.
I had a great talk with my sister the day after the text. She gave me some good things to think about that I have forgotten along my Journey to Less Stuff.
Some people actually like to give gifts.
I have always just ended up feeling obligated, which leads me to buy really crappy gifts like that one year I bought my mom a Chia Pet. Really. But some people give really thoughtful gifts, and look forward to giving them. My saying I don’t want to exchange gifts takes away the joy that others in my family may get from giving them. (Mr. 1500 note: Wait, I like Chia Pets. Not as much as a Tesla Roadster, but I always wanted one.)
Some people look forward to receiving gifts.
I always dread opening gifts, maybe because so many times I have been the recipient of an obvious Obligation Gift. Plus, I feel guilty if I toss it, donate it, or return it so I keep it even if I can’t use it which adds to the clutter.
It doesn’t have to be something.
(Calling you out, sis!) My sister said, “And you know, you don’t have to give them a thing, you can give them something else.” HAHA!
But she’s right. It doesn’t have to be a thing. Some friends of ours will be in town on December 26, and I asked my sister if she’d be upset if we ducked out of the family thing for a few hours. She said, “No, that’s great. I love spending time with your kids. Hey, that can be my present to you – having a trusted person babysitting your kids.”
I actually like giving things to people – when I know they’ll like it.
One sister-in-law loves Octopi. There is a really cool Octopus Mosaic on the Boardwalk in Pacific Beach. We took pictures of it and gave it to her one year. She loved it and I knew she would because it’s super cool artwork. I think the only gift that would have been cooler would have been a real octopus or the actual mosaic.
Mr. 1500 note: I’ll like the Tesla, even more than my sister would like an octopus.
Mrs. 1500 note: OMG, do NOT buy him a Tesla.
Mr. 1500 note: Couch! Couch!! COUCH!!!
My youngest daughter has discovered the Draw So Cute YouTube Channel. She can’t get enough of these adorable drawings, and her illustration style has vastly improved in the few short weeks she’s been watching and drawing along.
Thanksgiving Day, Target had 36 Sharpie Markers on sale for $15, and OfficeMax sold 3-ream boxes of paper for $.01 each. The littlest 1500 is going to be over the moon using her own paper and her very own Sharpie set to draw for hours.
I really like to give gifts to people when I know it’s something they’ll enjoy.
It’s a work in progress.
I’m really trying to have a more positive attitude this year. I still don’t want anything – I’ve got more boxes in the garage to go through and donate much of the contents.
Mr. 1500 note: Truth. And we’ll need that extra space for that Tesla Roadster. Get to it!
Mrs. 1500 note: Seriously. Do not encourage him. Most of those boxes in the garage are his.
I’ve asked for donations in my name to various charities, to get around the “I don’t want anything” roadblock.
So please, dear readers. Share your words of wisdom on how to handle this situation – either for or against gift-giving.
How do you graciously handle receiving gifts when you really just don’t want anything?
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